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Positive Regard for Personality Problems: Try It! If you are to receive positive regard, you must give positive regard. We teach people how to treat us. It is incongruous to expect individuals to be respectful when you are not respectful in your attitude and your treatment of them. It's like pushing a person to the ground, putting your foot on her shoulder and yelling "Get Up!" You teach people around you how to be accountable for their behavior by simply asking them to share what's going on with them that is causing them to do what they are doing. Asking "what," not "why," raises their emotional intelligence, and will eliminate habitual excuse-making. Once the thinking and the feelings are voiced and understood, the two of you can come up with an agreeable solution. Interceding on harmful behaviors and establishing what skillful approaches are now preferred and expected, shows you care about their well-being. When you witness someone doing something verbally or attitudinally harmful, you simply and quietly ask the individual to come aside with you and address what's really going on, openly and compassionately. If they resist having a conversation with you, then let go of it for now and try again later when things aren't so intense. At this pivotal moment, you can positively impact a situation in 30 seconds or less by applying the "What, If, When Technique" to individuals who have said or done something that is harmful either to themselves or to others: "What's going on for you that you would do (or say) what you just did?" If they don't know, simply say, "If you did know, what would it be?" If they still can't access what's actually upsetting them, then say, "When you do know, I want you to tell me because you are important to me. We will revisit this before the end of the day. For now, let's get back to work." That's it. This very specific technique interrupts and transforms any unproductive experience with anyone. Simply asking "What's going on for you?" instead of "Why did you do it?" connects the dots to the heart of the matter instead of making up more cerebral excuses that never, ever get resolved! It lets individuals know that, even though they've been unskillful in their treatment of others, or of you, that they matter to you. They now have your full compassionate attention, and they know that you want to align with them to resolve whatever it was that they felt the need to strike out about. Compassion on the impersonal level, is the ability to get along with other people, or good will toward all others without personal attachment. Excerpt from The Power of Compassion: 7 Ways You Can Make A Difference by Mary Robinson Reynolds
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Spiritual Connections
Wednesdays, 7:00 pm
Please read : 1 Kings 17:8-16
Galatians 1:11-24
Luke 7:11-17
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Personal Boot Camp
Four-week Session 1 ½ Hour each
Thursdays, 5:30 p.m.
Contact David Adams, Sr.
322-5142 or
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All Performances and Exhibits are FREE!
Festival Hours
Friday: Noon–10pm
Saturday 10am–10pm
Sunday 10am–7pm
http://www.festivalgr.org
Helpful Hints for Success:
*Be on-time.
*If you need to cancel - please try to inform Judy or Maureen a day in advance.
*Focus on your assigned area.
*Must wear a hat in the booth / food area.
*Be polite to co-volunteers
*Be polite to the public
*Don't stress when things get hectic - allow the coordinator to provide direction
To the One who loves us best, we are thankful for this opportunity to again be in community with our food booth. Thank you for blessing us with a most dedicated, effective and loving team. Judy and Maureen need your continued guidance and protection. Touch each volunteer with your grace and many thanks to those who contribute in any way. May there be abundant profit and may this tribute to our beloved Richard Martin honor you, O Lord of the Most High, Amen and amen…
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An Opportunity to Be a Gift
Prayerfully make a
special offering to
Free Spirit Worship Center.
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BE THE BRIDGE
Location: Grand Rapids Community Foundation 
185 Oakes Street SW
 Grand Rapids, MI 49503 US
When: Tuesday, June 8, 8:00AM to 5:00PM
Contacts: 616-802-0034 (Chad Beyer) or
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Rev. Mary will be on vacation
Sunday, June 13
through
Saturday, June 19
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Why should I attend?
v Learn from a national leader in intergroup relations about how to facilitate meaningful dialogue about LGBT inclusion
v Become a qualified B1 Catalyst for Inclusion facilitator
v Bring back new skills to your organizations to help lead inclusion change.
You have been invited because of your commitment to creating a more inclusive environment for LGBT people in West Michigan.
Led by Robbie Routenberg and Adrienne Dessel, Ph.D. from The University of Michigan Program on Intergroup Relations
Sponsored by B1 Catalyst for Inclusion
Made possible by a generous grant from The Grand Rapids Community Foundation. The training cost, parking, and lunch will be provided.
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Council Meeting
Wednesday, June 23
5:30 pm
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Stay connected with united prayer in the Greater Grand Rapids area
Go to www.gatheringgr.org or our Facebook Fan Page to connect with other prayer happenings in our region and to share your prayer events and ideas.
Please help this prayer movement to continue!
Contact us with feedback and to learn how to get involved in planning future united prayer events at
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Gathering Grand Rapids is a movement of Christian churches of varying cultures, generations, and denominations praying together in unity for our region.
Jesus' prayer for the Church: "May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me"
John 17:22-23
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2010 West Michigan Pride Festival
Saturday, June 19, 2010 11: 00 a.m. -10:00 p.m. Contact Sally to volunteer at the Free Spirit Booth.
- This year there is a wide selection of entertainment on two stages
offering hours of continuous amusement.
- A multitude of vendors will be displaying a vast array of good from art and jewelry to pet care and advocacy.
- There will be a kids and family area with fun activities for all children. For more fun, try mini gulf or Frisbee gulf.
- There will be karaoke and opportunities to make your own music DVD. There will even
be bingo.
When you get hungry, there will be plenty of vendors serving great food. Beer and wine will also be available for those over twenty-one.
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Weekly Memo 
